It is very psychotherapeutically useful to name the different parts of ourselves. Naming is acknowledging, identifying, and the beginning of integration. What is really important to remember though, is that none of these parts are outside of you, none of these parts are outside our ownership. All of these are us. You can see it as being a sum of these parts, or as being a rich complex being.
There is no moral hierarchy, no good and bad parts, just names of different parts of a whole. Integration is seeing ourselves as a whole.
Someone left a comment on a recent post of mine saying that her ego had sabotaged her morning. Please know if you have these thoughts about yourself: there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an ego. It is an inescapable part of the human experience. There is also nothing wrong with your ego.
We all have patterns, we all nervous system adaptations, we all have beliefs, we all have trauma responses on a spectrum. Some of these are helpful, and some of these are less helpful. Our egos are that very human part of us, they house our fears. You will never not have an ego or shadow – just like you will never not have thoughts, feelings, and generally be a person. It is okay to take ownership of this, in fact it is encouraged. Be you. Be all of you. #inthetrencheswithyou